Stepping Off the Pedestal: Important Metaphors of Life

Stepping Off the Pedestal: Important Metaphors of Life: I had almost successfully removed the pedestal from underneath me that I had built there.  The pedestal that the perfect ME resides most of ...

Important Metaphors of Life

I had almost successfully removed the pedestal from underneath me that I had built there.  The pedestal that the perfect ME resides most of the time.  That was until I was so close to standing firmly on my own two feet again, and then I had simply lost it.  I fell down... HARD!  Instead of just climbing right back on top of it, I decided it was too hard to do, and besides... I truly didn't care what others thought about me, or did I?  I made a conscious decision to destroy the unstable pedestal that remained in my heart with kerosene and a vengeance.


It became a huge struggle for me to keep others in my life from noticing that I had fallen and it didn't take long for me to start thinking I wasn't good enough to stand so tall anyhow.  This led me to start thinking about this metaphor of a "pedestal" more clearly.  Was this metaphor an excuse for me to fall down, or was this metaphor a challenge to live my life without it?  After all, I didn't even really notice the pedestal that I was standing on  until I had fallen off of it.


My "pedestal" metaphor might be someone else's "rock bottom"... or, it may simply be my mountain top or success.

Stepping Off the Pedestal: True Easter Tests

Stepping Off the Pedestal: True Easter Tests: As he walks out the front door, with good intentions or not, I think about my path of destruction so obviously turned inward... HIS own pa...

True Easter Tests

As he walks out the front door, with good intentions or not, I think about my path of destruction so obviously turned inward...


HIS own path of destruction turned outwards may just leave him sadly mistaken...


I will stand strong for my beliefs and my children will breathe no impact.  It gives me great joy that they were more concerned about what their dress of false worship would be more than the house that they would worship in...


Sadly, the only true sufferer in all of this is HIS son.


Lord, thank you for testing our marriage, but it is NOT going to break us, FATHER!!!

Everyone must decide whether they will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the dark of destructive selfishness.

-Martin Luther King, Jr.

Crossing That Line

Have you ever noticed that we all get so excited about telling stories regarding other people?  Most people simply regard these "stories" as gossip, and usually they are JUST gossip.  What if the story involves someone that you care about, and its topic is your best friend's grief.  Either someone close to this best friend died, or maybe a long time companion, such as a dog or a cat... why are we all so eager to share someone else's grief with others?  Do we care about our best friend's grief simply because we care about them and need others to share with in order to eliminate that grief?  Some are guilty of using others' grief in order to feel better about themselves and it has nothing to do with the person who actually deserves the attention. Do you know where the "line" lies between a caring best friend and a codependent best friend?

Feeding One's Appetite for Codependency

I have given so much of myself the past few weeks that I didn't realize the stress on my plate began to get really hard to swallow. The worst part of it is that everything I did to create that stress were things I did for others, not even my own kids. Is it necessary to hurt others you love in order to feed one's appetite for codependency? I was so stressed that everything that had been silently irritating me about my kids came spewing out of my ugly mouth uncontrollably. It was easy, because after all, I don't need THEM to feed my codependency. They already know me and love me all the same. Then I thought, what kind of healthy, non codependent things that I could do for my kids without expectations of receiving good feelings about myself in return? How can I use this as a tool to help me deal with others that aren't so close to me? 


Sincerely saying "I love you" and "I am sorry, I made a big mistake"... instead of buying them gifts or trying to make up for lost time by doing something for them. 


Please let me know if anyone has any other ideas. Let's help each other if we can find a moment in our crazy day!